Family Relationships Often Determine Our View of God


How we relate to members of our family can often determine how we view God. This is most apparent in our relationship with our fathers, especially since the Bible tells us that God is our heavenly father.

However, it’s important to note that the God that resides over all created things is far superior to any earthly father we will ever have or ever be. Let me share with you a little story to demonstrate this point.

A Father That Didn’t Stand Up For Me

I absolutely love my father. He’s probably one of the godliest men I know. In my opinion, the way he treats my mother and siblings is exactly how I imagine Jesus would. I have a very positive and healthy relationship with my dad.

My relationship with my mom compared to my dad is a bit different. Yes, I believe she would do anything for me. She supports me, she knows what to pray for when I’m struggling with sin, and she always tells me she loves.

But we are very similar, which means we butt heads. Often, our verbal interactions would become heated and we would say things that were very hurtful.

What disappointed me the most was how my dad would sometimes stand on the sidelines and do nothing. Maybe he didn’t think it was his place, but there were certain moments when I wished he would have intervened — stood up for me.

The View That God Didn’t Fight For Me

Because I often felt alone when my mom would go too far, I applied this feeling to my relationship with God. I viewed God as someone who left me to my own demise.

He didn’t protect me or stand up for me. He stood by watching me get battered and bruised and didn’t think to move a muscle. He loved me, but he wasn’t willing to get his hands dirty for me.

This view of God is completely unbiblical and sinful. The Bible is filled with verses that speak of how much God cares for me and fights for me. He shed his blood and died on a cross for me.

Our Earthly Father Is a Shadow of Our Heavenly Father

Whether you have a good relationship with your father or one that is nonexistent, understand that it comes nowhere close to how your heavenly father wants to relate with you.

Romans 8:15 says, “For you did not receive the spirit of slavery to fall back into fear, but you have received the Spirit of adoption as sons, by whom we cry, “Abba! Father!”

Our view of God gets out of focus when we compare Him to the relationship we have with our earthly father and other family members. Let what God has revealed about Himself in His Word determine your view of him.

My prayer for me and my family, as well as yours, is that we do not look to each other for validation. Rather, we find our identity and self-worth in Jesus.